Safewords

I've never had to use a safeword, we've just never been in a position when a serious "stop" wouldn't have done the job. Consequently we've never really had a proper safeword. J proposed we change this the other day and he suggested a trio of words I really liked. Having three words based on the traffic light pattern is fairly common and for the uninitiated, here's how it works:

The green word: This means "everything's fine" or possibly "more, please". A green word isn't strictly necessary but it could be useful. I'm not sure whether I'll actually have a reason to use my green word but I like having one.

The yellow word: This means "slow down" and "careful, you're getting close to red". This is useful for regulating a scene without breaking it off entirely. I imagine this will be very handy when we're trying new things.

The red word: This means "STOP". Simple as that. If something goes too far this is your way out. I hope I won't have to use my red word but it would be irresponsible not to have one. I imagine this is what most people think of when they hear about safewords. 

Most people have probably heard my trio of words at one time or another but in this context they're deeply personal so no, I'm not going to tell you what they are. More than just establishing our safewords J also suggested I try using them a couple of times over the next few weeks as practice. He wants to be sure we're sufficiently used to them in case we'll ever need them for real. The thought of practising hadn't crossed my mind, it's a good thing that I have J looking out for me.


I just had J proofread this post and while he did he also noticed I was wearing some of his clothes. He made me take them off and pull down my pants, he then smacked me twice with the ruler for being a bad girl. The day is off to a good start.